30 Days

Well, I made it.  I can't say that any of the posts were literary masterpieces, but it was fun and I'm glad I did it.  My old blog used to be a really important part of my life. When I was struggling to get pregnant, there were many days when my blog was the only place I could go for some understanding.  Now that I've moved to my new space, I realize that I still don't feel as comfortable here.  Perhaps posting more often will help that.

I appreciate my blogging and Twitter friends so much, and if you aren't on Twitter, I highly recommend it.  It is my go to place to vent or get support when I need it.  It's also good when you need a few opinions, or 100.  In some ways, I think that blogging has become a bit too serious.  I see some bloggers who write about their families and agonize over every decision and every negative comment until the drama spills over into other social networks.  I am the first to admit that I do my share of agonizing, but to do it for a living would be exhausting.  Some people love that drama and intensity and I guess that's why their blogs have so many readers.  I prefer to stay in my corner and enjoy the outlet it provides.

So, thank you for sticking around for the last 30 days.  I hope you enjoyed it!  I poured you a glass of wine to celebrate........

That Time of Year

When I was growing up my mother had a strict rule that no Christmas decorations would go up until December 1st.  We would wake up in the morning and the whole house would be decorated with advent calendars and we knew that getting a tree wasn't far behind.  Christmas was a time of year when everything was right. My mom was in a better mood, we had time off from school, and our normally strict diets were relaxed a little and we got treats.  As a result, I am one of those people that loves Christmas, but I don't adhere to the December 1st rule.  We had our tree up on Saturday and there's been a lot of "don't touch" and we already have one broken ornament, but the kids have to learn how to be around a Christmas tree at some point. 

The last two years have been fun, but the kids were too young to really understand what was going on.  My company has a Christmas party and one of our employees plays Santa.  This is great because not only is his beard real, but this means I don't have to stand in line at the mall.

L's first meeting with Santa went ok, although he was a bit suspicious

The next year, he was not at all happy to see his old friend, Santa.  E was a little confused as to why we dressed her like that if we knew he would be wearing the same thing.

We're hoping that L will understand a little better this year, although I think it might be E's turn to freak out.  This Saturday is the children's Christmas party, so we'll see how it goes.  We've been playing Christmas music and I plan on showing the kids all of the usual TV specials. I want them to love this holiday as much as I do and to gain a sense of what is really important. We don't do a lot of presents, but we'll be together and I know that the love and security we all feel is much better than a gift certificate. 

(I wouldn't turn down a gift certificate to Starbuck's, though, if Santa happens to be reading this.) 

Back to Work

Well, it's back to the real world tomorrow. The break was really nice, despite the Saturday we lost to M's stomach bug. I can't decide how I feel about going back. On one hand, I know that the kids need school and their normal routine. I need to work and, well, I also need a little peace and quiet. On the other hand, I'm going to miss being at home, being lazy, and getting extra time with L and E. The choice is made by economic need, so off to work and school we all go.

We went to the zoo today and I managed to take some photos that weren't of the kids. I am as shocked as you are.

Some big Texas sky:



A sculpture that I managed to catch without any kids in it:

Two Against One

When E was born a lot of people joked that we no longer outnumbered the kids. It was now a one-on-one defense. Not having more adults than kids does make it more hectic, but it's when only one adult is around that things get crazy.

M was laid out by a stomach bug today and my parents left this morning, so it was just me and the kids. The thing is, I find it really hard to take them to the park or to run errands when I'm solo parenting. L is almost 3 and E is just about 18 months. I live in fear of L making a run for it or getting lost in a store. He wants to be out of the cart, which makes E want out, as well. There's no way I can keep track of them both. At the park, L has been known to run off and leave you with no choice but to leave E and run after him. When we are together as parents, they both behave. It's like they test the weakness when we're alone.

I know that they are both still very young, but when only one of us is around, it really limits what we can do and it makes me feel like I'm a bad disciplinarian, which I am not. We ventured out briefly today to make a shopping trip to Fry's, and both kids were very good, but I didn't push my luck by going to a second store. I feel guilty for the TV watching and having to turn to TV so I can get just a few things done.

Things are looking up. M is better, poor guy, and we are annoying on going to the zoo tomorrow. Hopefully the kids will have more fun tomorrow. Also, we got the tree up and my Father Christmas collection displayed!

Black Friday

When I lived in Boston I decided I would go to Filene's Basement, the one downtown, the day after Thanksgiving. I didn't buy anything because I immediately became fearful for my life when I saw the crazed shoppers going through the clothes piled high on the tables. I decided that it wasn't worth it. After seeing the Target flyer yesterday, my mom and I decided to give it a shot, but we went just before 7, not 4am. We got the two things we wanted and it was actually a pretty fun time! I kind of wish Target was open that early all the time. I could get a lot done that way.

We spent the rest of the day eating leftovers, watching football, and even managed another trip to see the Saturn V rocket.



Since my parents are still here, I was able to have a nice dinner with M in the city. It was another great day!

Thanksgiving

Today was a good day. We cleared enough boxes to actually eat in the dining room and even the kids ate some mashed potatoes and turkey. We talked, ate, and laughed through the meal. We even managed to take a quick trip to the park.

My brother and his girlfriend are fantastic with the kids and I can't wait to see him with his own kids, someday.



I have a lot to be thankful for today and every day. I hope everyone had a wonderful holiday!

This Is Not OK

I grew up n Texas, but my heart has always been in a colder climate.  I love cold weather.  I know that people will say, "Well, you've never lived in cold weather. Snow is a pain in the ass and the months of dreariness gets to you."  I have lived in cold climates, but family and other forces brought me back to Texas.  Otherwise, I would be living in a snowy place, trust me. 

We sent L to school with shorts on this morning.  Shorts on the day before Thanksgiving.  It is so hard to get into the holiday spirit when you have to run the AC and put on bug spray.  It's just depressing.  I am so tired of being miserable all summer and then still sweating in the humidity in the "winter" months, or should I say "month".  No matter how much you hate winter, you would not want this weather.  It's humid, your hair always, always looks bad and summer lasts for 8 months.  It's not a pleasant, Midwestern summer, either.  It's omygodi'mgoingtodie summer.  There are no seasons.  You don't really think about it until you go somewhere that actually has a fall.  Trust me, you would miss seasons.

If we were less practical, I think we would move just to escape the heat and occasional hurricane.  However, I think we're stuck here for the time being.  I resent it, though.  Shorts on Thanksgiving is just wrong.

What about you? Do you wish you lived in a different climate?

Almost Ready

I'm not good at cleaning. I like things to be clean, but I have a really hard time talking myself in to cleaning rather than relaxing or doing almost anything else, really. I usually do really well when company is coming because it forces me to power clean.

Right now, my kitchen looks awesome and all of the bathrooms are clean. Bring on the company.

I swear, if I get a raise or win the lottery I am totally getting a maid to clean the kitchen and bathrooms. Maybe everything. Cooking and laundry would be nice, too.....

The Thing About Twitter......

I'm on twitter a lot. It has become a great support system for me. I can honestly say that I've met some wonderful people there. Of course, there is an element of drama. There are those that bring all of their issues to twitter in the hopes of getting some attention. One in particular is such a train wreck that I can't unfollow her and I can't look away. I am fairly sure she is making some of it up in the attempt to become the powerful blogger she dreams of being. It's fascinating and bizarre, just like Twitter.

What about you? Do you have any dramas or train wrecks you follow?

The Closet

When we moved into our house we had to replace all of the flooring. The carpet and tile were original and quite gross. The master closet was supposed to have carpet, but there was a very odd floor to ceiling shelf thing in there that was old and gross like the old carpet. We opted to not put carpet in there so we could rip out the weird shelf and still keep our move in schedule. It's had cement floors......until now.

M is very handy, but he is also meticulous. So, while things end up looking very nice, it takes a while. Add to that juggling kids and every day stuff, and it takes a long while. The closet is actually really big and M put in carpet tiles which are really cool. For storage, we bought some cabinets from Ikea.

Here is a view of the carpet tiles and the cabinet.



The funny thing is that many of my shoes and clothes have been packed away. I've been getting by with a lot less because I had to. I might just give the unworn clothes away. Obviously, I don't need them that badly.

That was my exciting weekend! I still have a lot to accomplish before Thursday, but we have free HBO and The Hangover is on, so we'll see how that goes.

Frustration

Well, the good news is that M finished the closet. We have a painted, carpet tiled room and I can't wait to get my stuff in there. The bad news is that it took him all day. All.Day.

We try to limit the TV watching for the kids, but on the days when I am solo and I still have to get a lot done, it's so hard not to turn on Nick Jr. We did pretty well. It was on in the morning, as usual, but was off for almost all of the afternoon.

If you have kids, how much TV do they watch? I'm curious.....

Checking it Twice

I made the mistake of listing everything I need to do before thanksgiving. Ugh. We are trying to clear our dining room of boxes from the move so that we don't have to eat in the kitchen. Bathrooms must be cleaned, sheets and clothes washed, and grocery shopping completed.

I don't mind being busy. In fact, I actually kind of like it. Next week is short and I am looking forward to the visitors. The only possible hitch could be the free HBO we get for the next week.

Well, if I don't get everything on the list life will go on. Right?


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It Begins

We had the annual Thanksgiving feast at work today. As you can see from the dessert table above, there was a lot of food. The holiday season has begin and, as usual, I have decided on gifts for friends and family and will be looking for the best deals possible.

The kids will be more aware of what's going on this year, especially L. I am getting E a baby doll and a doll bed that I saw at Ikea. L is getting a toy garbage truck that makes noise. (I'm sure I'll regret that choice.). I try to limit my parents to 2 gifts for each kid but it hasn't worked, so far.

I can't think of anything I really want. I guess a new point and shoot camera or an iPhone 4G, but money is tight with big property taxes looming, so I might just opt out of gifts. What do I really need, anyway? It's much more fun watching the kids enjoy theirs.

I think E is making her list right now...



What are you asking for this year?

Making My List

 

One week from today it will be Thanksgiving Eve.  I can't believe it's already that time of year!!  We're hosting even though we still have mountains of boxes, but we'll make it work, somehow.  We are creatures of habit when it comes to food.  My dad smokes a Turkey, which is really awesome, and brings it with him so all we have to do is heat it up in the oven when we're ready to eat.  I thought I would share the dishes we're making and hope that you'll tell me about anything that you just couldn't live without at Thanksgiving.  If the recipe is online, I linked it, so check it out!

Side Dishes:
Mashed Potatoes - smooth, no skin or lumps

Sweet potatoes with orange glaze (my mom has been making this for as long as I can remember)

Green Bean Casserole - One of my favorites

Dressing - I just get one out of a box and add spiced walnuts and bacon.

Cranberry Sauce - I am making this sauce, which is so good.  It's easy and I highly recommend it.  I am also going to make Ma Stamberg's cranberry relish.  I am a big NPR fan and I have wanted to make this for years.  We'll see how it goes!

Rolls - of course

Salad - A little extra green

Pies!
Apple Butter Pumpkin Pie - It's really good and probably the healthiest thing you'll ever see on Paula Deen's site.
Blackberry Pie - Every year I somehow manage ruin the pecan pie, so my parents are bringing one to put me out of my misery.

So, there you have it!  What are you having?  Are you staying in town or traveling?

Rough Night

I'm really tired today, so I can't think of anything very interesting to write about.  Why am I tired?  Well, there seems to be a bit of a tummy bug going around.  The funny thing is, while we are dealing with it here, a friend in Mississippi is dealing with it, as is my friend in Chicago.  Are we seeing the spread of an illness or can you catch something from Twitter??

Anyway, about midnight last night M woke me up saying "L threw up everywhere, I need help!"  I was so out of it, I thought it was morning.  I stumbled to L's room and saw the damage.  L was in the bathroom, naked as a jaybird, and started jumping up and down when he saw me. Mom, mom, I made a mess in my bed!  No joke, kid.  M put him in the tub and hosed him off while I changed the sheets.  I realized that I never quite got around to buying an extra twin sized mattress pad.  Dammit.  L got some new PJs and I rinsed and put the old sheets in the wash.  In the mean time, L was wide awake and as chatty as ever.  I guess throwing up made him feel better.  M stayed with him, bless his heart, and said he didn't fall completely asleep until 4am.  Ugh.

Since there was no fever and L kept his milk down, we went ahead and sent him to school.  As I type this, 30 minutes before I leave, I am amazed he made it through the day.  I'm going to guess that he didn't eat much and took a really good nap.  I am going to put some probiotics in his milk this evening and see if I can kill whatever it is that's getting him.  E is fine, knock on wood, and slept through everything.  She is the only one that will be in a good mood tonight, I predict.

These are the stories you tell your kids when they are grown and raising their own families.  M and I joke about earning parenting badges and I think we deserve one for our teamwork last night.  Hopefully we'll all get some rest tonight.

Got any good middle of the night throw up stories?

Seventeen Months

I looked at the calendar and realized that E is 17 months today.  There are parts of the 17 months that have rushed by and parts that have gone in slow motion.  Namely, the 10 months that she wasn't sleeping through the night.  As I look back, it all seems to blur together.  I can only separate the moments when I look at photographs.

I love seeing her personality emerge.  She is becoming quite the firecracker, which is exciting and terrifying all at once.  She plays really well with L most of the time and has a very specific screech when he tries to take a toy away from her.  I call it her pterodactyl noise.  She loves to say "dog" and her favorite phrase is "what's that?"  She still uses her pacifier, which we will soon be working on, and she is really good about letting me do her hair. 

Yesterday she was playing with a balloon and tried to bite it, which made it pop, of course. I held my breath to see how loud she would cry, but heard nothing but laughter instead.  I thought, you should be crying!  That must have stung a little.  I have never heard her laugh that loudly.  Like I said, firecracker.  I'm glad.  Girls need a little attitude in this world.  You're never too young to start kicking ass and taking names.

En Bra Dag

I don't have much to write about today. We went to one of my favorite places - Ikea! M calls is the Swedish Embassy. I don't know if it's the cheap food or the well organized layout, but I love it there. They even put Swedish books on the shelf.


This roughly translates to "do it yourself", I believe. We got some stuff for our newly remodeled master closet, ate some meatballs, and loaded the van.





It was a good trip and I can't wait for my new closet!!

Nooooooo!!!

Here I am in bed with tea. I added an instagram filter to make me look less like death warmed over. All of a sudden I started feeling terrible and I just don't have time for this!

It was cold and dreary today, but we managed to go to the art museum and a festival at the local nature center. The kids had a great time, of course, and L was completely enthralled with the square dancers. I'm not sure what to do with that - square dancing lessons?

I am hoping that a good night's sleep will put me right again. In the mean time, I leave you with this photo I took of L and M's hands. It melts my heart.

Bad Things and Good People

Some days the news just weighs me down.  For the past few days the big internet hubbub has been about Amazon and its respective cancellation of objectionable material for Kindle.  (By the way, they still sell videos and picture books with underage (11-13) year olds without clothes on, so no big victory there.)    Then you bring up your favorite news site or watch the evening news and there is always a story about a child being abused or killed or dying in a fire.  I don't know if its because I'm a parent now or if the exhaustion of life has made me more emotional, but these stories just makes me die a little inside.  I see the link to the story and I want to look away, but nine times out of ten, I click on it and the sadness crushes me. 

I can't relate to anyone who would ever harm a child and a part of me wants to scream and rage and the injustice.  As the economy has worsened, so have the incidents of mindless violence and people snapping under the pressure.  Every holiday season the donation boxes go out at work and the Salvation Army angel tree cards are available.  My pocketbook prevents me from taking all of the cards, but I wish I could.  I take two, one boy and one girl, and I try to make myself feel better by knowing that they will have something new, something that they wanted, to open on Christmas morning.  I know there is no way to heal all of the sadness in the world and there is no way I can control it.  All I can do is hug my kids and hope that I am raising two loving people to live in the world that might have a chance to cancel out some of the evil.

Does the news get you down, too?  Do you have a hard time turning away from stories that you know will break your heart?

What I'm Watching

I don't know how I ever survived without a DVR.  I would be completely out of touch with anything happening on TV it it weren't for that magic little box.  Not only is it invaluable for controlling what the kids watch, but it allows me to see my favorite shows without having to drop everything to catch it when it's actually being shown.  Also, being able to fast forward through commercials is nice.

After the kids go to bed I have to do dishes, make lunches, do laundry and then homework.  I'm lucky if I get to squeeze in one episode of anything, but I try to watch something to give my mind a little break after a long day.  I used to love to read, and I'm sure that once I graduate I will be able to go back to it, but for now it's all about school books.

I tend to stick to comedies and what I like to call non-exploitative reality shoes, or reality shows where you have to have a talent other than whoring.  Top Chef, Project Runway and House Hunters all fall into that category.

Some of my current favorites:

The Office - required for any HR professional
Parenthood - So well written with such great acting
30 Rock - Funniest show on TV right now
Glee - Of course
Raising Hope - I loved My Name Is Earl and this is just as good. LOVE seeing Martha Plimpton on TV!
The Increasingly Poor Decisions of Todd Margaret - It's a BBC show with some Arrested Development alum and it's being shown on IFC. It's on Fridays, so if you liked AD, you will like this.

I also love my usuals:  Futurama, The Simpsons, Family Guy, Seinfeld reruns and Freaks and Geeks reruns which I recently discovered on IFC, as well.

The kids watch most stuff on Nick Jr., but the current favorite is called Dino Dan. It;s a CBC production and is a live action show with CG dinosaurs.  L is completely in love.  He is constantly looking out the window saying "Oh no, Dinosaur Rex!"  Even E seems to like it. 

So what are you watching these days?  Anything good I should check out?

Always On My Mind

 

 If you did a survey I think you would find that most women are either dieting or think that they should diet.  All of the stats about how we're getting fatter and not exercising at alarming rates is constantly in the news.  Dieting has become a way of life for most people.  It certainly is for me.  Lately, though, I find myself becoming increasingly apathetic towards it all.  Until I was 30 I never had to think about counting calories or worrying about putting on weight.  When I got off birth control so we could start a family, I gained about 15 pounds for various reasons, one of which was a hormone wackiness that I wasn't aware of.  After L was born, I got tired of feeling big and enrolled in Weight Watchers.  It really worked for me and I lost the rest of the baby weight plus the 15 that I gained before I got pregnant.  After E I did the same thing and had great success.  Weight Watchers worked for me because my inexperience with dieting makes me very weak and prone to justifying bad decisions.  I need that structure to help me see the numbers behind the stuff I was eating.  In September I actually saw a number in the 140s, which for my 5'9 frame is a lower number than I had seen in almost 3 years.  

Several weeks ago M and I were looking at ways to cut costs as we face the first round of property taxes in our new home (ouch) and I volunteered to give up my online subscription so we would save the $20 per month.  Every little bit counts, right?  I was about 4 pounds away from my ultimate weight goal, but being on the plan so long, I thought I would be ok without it.  Big mistake.  I can't blame the lack of Weight Watchers for my almost immediate gaining of 6 pounds, but I know it didn't help.  With everything else going on in my life, I just fell into this pattern of "who cares?"  When you have that invisible wife/mother feeling it's really easy to stop caring whether your pants fit or how you look.  I do care, though.  I want to look good, because I want to look good.  When I was young, being attractive was something that came from the outside.  I was attractive because others said I was.  Flawed, yes, but I was in my 20s.  Now, I want to look good because it makes me feel good.  It gives me a sense of accomplishment and purpose.  If I am healthy, I feel better and look better.  It's something I do for myself.

Instead of going to to Weight Watchers I have decided to think about what got me here.  One thing is snacking.  I am such a snacker.  I snack when I'm bored or watching TV.  The bored thing I can battle, but while watching TV is a powerful association.  So, I've either limited the amount of the snack or changed it to a healthier choice.  I am going to back to tracking on The Daily Plate which lets me see the calories, but also the nutritional content.  I can always tell when I've had too many processed food because the sodium goes waaaay up.  It's a great tool if you've never checked it out.  The third factor is exercise.  We run around with the kids and walk to our neighborhood park, but I really don't exercise.  The lack of gym time stressed me out so much that I had to just say "ok, you may not have that luxury until school is over".   After I accepted that, I actually felt a lot better.  Now that the weather is nicer, I anticipate that we will be outside and running around a lot more.

I have ten pounds to go until my ultimate weight goal.  I know I can get there but I'm not going to put a time line on it.  I know that the holidays will involve some indulgences, but getting back in the good eating habit now will make it easier.  I can't promise that I won't cave and have some more of these fried pickles and jalapenos.

 

I'll keep you updated on my progress.

Shots & Rockets

L wasn't able to get a flu shot last year because he was always, always too sick. So, we took advantage of this period of wellness (knock on wood) and got him a shot. I was conflicted about getting it at all, but I'll blog about that another time.

He did great and didn't cry at all! As a treat, M and I took him to a local diner for pie and ice cream.





I got the fried pickles and , but also ended up tasting L's pie. Oops.




Since L has been obsessed with all things NASA (can't imagine where he gets that) we picked up E from daycare and headed to Rocket Park. It's not a park as much as a large building that holds a Saturn V rocket. It's quite impressive and L loves it there.

Each stage is separated so you can see its inner workings, including its balls.



I mean, come on, this thing isn't phallic enough?

Outside there are some smaller rockets and engines to admire.


This was used to perform abort testing during the Apollo era.

It was nice to get some one-on-one time with L. It was a great afternoon!

The Anti-Supermom

I don't usually do this, but I would really like you to read this article before you read my post.  It's not too long and totally worth it.

In my dream life I am the "perfect" mother.  By perfect, I mean that I breastfed exclusively for a year, made all of the baby food for my kids, and the weekends are spent in museums with TV watching being a very rare occurrence.  Like I said, in my dream life.  M pointed out the article linked above and when I read it, it really struck a chord in me.   I never imagined that the ideas that have become accepted in motherhood over the last twenty years could be viewed as a burden or even a prison, but if I am honest with myself, I admit that it feels that way, sometimes. 

I don't totally agree with everything that Erica Jong says, and she comes across as being almost as hard lined as the proponents on the other side, but I think she has some very valid points.  It is easy to forget how much motherhood and its ideals are perpetuated by the media.  In this age of social networking, I would say that it is even worse.  If someone makes a comment on twitter that they were uncomfortable seeing someone breastfeed in a restaurant, they are attacked and verbally beaten until bloody.  My question is, why wasn't there a place that the mother could go and quietly feed her child?  Why isn't that the norm in a society that so clearly thinks a good mother = a breastfeeding mother?  We expect mothers to breastfeed, but there is very little support.  Lactation consultants in hospitals are an absolute nightmare of conflicting information and the state laws that require employers to set aside a room for pumping are inconsistent and weak.  So, basically, we are supposed to be comfortable breastfeeding in public, but we are also expected to take the abuse and defend ourselves when people object. 

If you open up a People magazine, there are entire subsections devoted to pregnant celebrities and celebrities with babies.  I'm sure their research tells them that the readers like to see that celebrities are just like them, raising their children.  Really?  Just like opening a Cosmo makes me feel like crash dieting, seeing some perfect looking celebrity mom does not help me, either.  I'm not going to make assumptions about Angelina Jolie or Madonna and say that they are using children as accessories.  Maybe they are, or maybe they just love children.  My issue is with the depiction of it all.  Women shout from the rooftops about the horrible things that supermodels do to our daughter's body images.  How can they put these skinny girls in magazines when it's not realistic?  Shouldn't we also decry the entire spreads that are put in magazines about women losing all of their baby weight in six weeks?  Why aren't there photos of Angelina with pink eye that she caught from her kids, or Giselle with toddler puke all over her?  This fake ideal that is constantly being pushed and that people eat up is a sort of prison.  Just as looking at a fashion magazine makes me feel bad about the size dress I wear, reading an article about  celebrity mom doing it all with no mention of the support she has from nannies and assistants is deplorable.  Getting help is not shameful, but that's the way it is treated.

It has taken me a long time to feel comfortable with my choices as a mother.  I'm not looking for anyone to tell me I am doing a good job or that I should do whatever I want as a mom.  Until I read this article I didn't realize how much of a burden the barrage of do this, do that or you are a sub-par mom was weighing me down.  I think that attachment parenting is great, but it just wasn't a reality for me.  I am a strong advocate for breastfeeding, but the reality is that it's extremely tough and not everyone can make it work.   I breastfed my kids for six months until my supply was literally nothing and they got formula for the rest of the time.  I made some of their baby food and fed them plenty of the jarred stuff, too.  If I really need to get something done on the weekends, I turn on Nick Jr.  I never let my babies sleep in bed with us when they were tiny because I just didn't think it was safe.  I hug and kiss them as much as possible and it annoys them sometimes, but that's just too bad.  I miss the kids when I drop them off at daycare, but when L comes home and counts and names the planets, I can't really say that being in daycare is a bad thing for him. 

I think that all moms do a little helicopter parenting and  little hands off parenting.  Sometimes, it's as simple as just reading what your kid needs.  I am lucky because my job doesn't include a long commute, so a mom that  barely gets home in time to tuck the kids in might have different views about all of this, but I do know that some of the things that I am seeing in magazines and on Twitter and Facebook are a little disturbing.  If moms are being victimized by the expectation that there is an ideal mother who can work and carry a baby all day, then we need to start by not victimizing each other.  I'm not always going to agree with the choices that another mom makes for her kids, but I can't possibly know the inner working of their lives.  Is this feminism?  I have no idea.  I have the luxury of not really having to answer that question.  The combination of work and home is my life and it's not really a "choice" as the feminist movement loves to call it.   

I think that this quote from the article sums is up for me:

"We need to be released from guilt about our children, not further bound by it. We need someone to say: Do the best you can. There are no rules."



 What do you think?  I am really interested to hear your thoughts on this article.   If you are a mom-to-be or a mom-in-waiting, I am looking for your input, as well.  As a follow-up, Erica Jong's daughter wrote an article about what kind of mother Erica was and it is worth a read, as well.

Fold 'Em

Well, Kenny Rogers was right, and we know that when it comes to potty training L, we should fold 'em. I spent all weekend trying to bribe him with M&Ms and wiping urine off the floor. After an epic meltdown right around bedtime, I decided it wasn't worth the stress to either of us.

I'm actually very ok with this. Being tethered to the house while potty training seems like such a shame when the weather is so nice. We'll try again in a month and see what happens.

The day wasn't all bad, though. The kids helped me make gingerbread and then cleaned up



We even ventured outside, where they ignored all of their toys and played with rocks


I'm so lucky to have those two. They are amazing little people.

Tonight

We had a rare night out, just M and me. We talked a lot about an article about motherhood that ran in The Wall Street Journal. I really want to blog about it at a later date. It had some excellent points.

On another note, we started potty training L today. There were a lot of accidents and I feel a little discouraged, but I know we'll get there. I'll be doing a lot of laundry, though. A lot.


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When I Was Your Age......

As I was completing my paper about the new health care reform, I looked at my resources and groaned. They were all online since the legislation rendered all of my textbooks obsolete, and I couldn't remember how to cite a web page. So, I used google, of course, and came across something called Easy Bib. It helps you to properly format a bibliography and will even keep a list of your sources and put them into a word document. I was stunned and a little ticked off. I mean, how many hours did I spend as an undergrad, looking up the latest MLA or APA formats in the library, in an actual book, in fear that I would be docked grade points for misplacing a period. You can just push a button now?? Humph.

I got my first email address in college through my university in the mid 1990s. I still have the first personal email I ever had, a hotmail account. I thought it was amazing that I could get my email from anywhere! Was it magic?? I also remember my first friend that got a cell phone that wasn't a car phone. It was a pay per minute plan and it was as thick as a large textbook. We thought she was the luckiest, most tech savvy person that we ever met. When I was growing up we lived in a rural area and our olive green dial phone that matched our olive green fridge was on a party line, believe it or not.

It's amazing how we have adapted to so much change. I think about the childhood that L and E will have and it amazes me. They have access to so much information right at their fingertips. They don't have to actually open an encyclopedia to find out information. They can watch almost any program they want on TV with no commercials and at a time of their choosing. They will never know a world without the availability of internet, cable and gps.

It makes me feel old to say it, but sometimes I think all of this information at your fingertips takes the fun out of looking. I know all of these e-readers are really popular, but I like actually opening a book. Asking a local for directions might give you a better route than google maps. Don't get me wrong, I love the instant gratification of modern life, but I'm not so sure it's good for our kids. That doesn't mean I'm ready to give up using my phone to reload my Starbucks card, though.

I'm the sad Holly Hobby in the front.

My Current Obsession

 

I feel all twitchy this morning because I left my iPhone on the kitchen counter, but the two of us are usually inseparable.  It has become a lifeline to social media, news, maps, and serves a a great distraction for the kids at the doctor's office.  Recently, I downloaded a free app called Instagram.  It's a way to take photos and apply cool filters to them and then share them with others.  You share them through instagram and you can also upload them to Flickr, Twitter, Facebook and FourSquare.  It's really cool.

The playground looks much cooler



A jar of candy at works seems more interesting



Clowns look scarier



Even your kids look cuter!


I guess what I like about it is that it's simply sharing a photo without a long explanation and people who follow your profile can "like" or comment on a photo.  It's like tweeting in a purely photographic format.  If you have an iPhone (it's only available through them right now) I highly, highly recommend this app.  My name is katetheowl, so find me!  We can share some photothoughts.

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FourSquare - An Uninformed, Unsponsored Review

 

At first, I thought to myself, why are people always telling me where they are?  Then, how can you be the mayor of  Starbucks?  Ah, Four Square, the app that is part game, part stalking tool.  I initially refused to play because of all of the warnings about being robbed since everyone would know you are at Target and not at home.  Like anything else, though, it's only as dangerous as the amount of information you are willing to share.   I looked around and decided that it would probably be a good thing if I was robbed.  It would save me a lot of cleaning and unpacking.  So, I signed up. 

I like checking in and I've already been made the mayor of my workplace.! (That is actually kind of sad.)  I like seeing what my friends are doing and there's more than a little bit of vicarious living when I check to see who gets to go out on Friday nights.  It's funny how we feel the need to stay in touch every second of every day.  Twitter, Facebook, and Four Square are all ways that we check in and ask for feedback.  I am one of those people that check twitter throughout the day and put my thoughts, happy and sad, for all to see.  If I really stopped to think about it I guess I would have to ask myself what is missing from my real, in-person life that makes me seek feedback so much about every move that I make.   Or, I can go to Target and see if they've made me mayor, yet.

Here, There, and Everywhere

Since our house is still full of boxes and a general embarrassment, we try to do as much as we can on the weekends to unpack, go through our junk, and finish projects.  This past weekend was not one of those weekends.  This is one of the few times of year that the weather is dry and the temperatures not too hot, so we tend to talk ourselves out of doing housework quite easily.  Every year, the Johnson Space Center teams up with local chamber of commerce and put on the Ballunar Festival and Open House.  Hot air balloons from all over the country come to race, compete in precision landing contests, and provide a lot of cool photo opportunities.

Along with that, the space center opens its doors for one day and anyone can come in and see their tax dollars at work.  M and I are both badged, but we have never really taken the kids into some of the buildings.

First, there was a lot of pointing and yelling of E's favorite phrase "what's that???"

Then we got hungry, so there was roasted corn

After watching parachuters and amateur rocket launches, we headed to Building 2 where there are some really awesome murals depicting what lies in store for NASA - policing the heavens in tight pants.

The kids decorated a paper shuttle with beads and I looked up at this thing

They used it as an earth bound simulator for the lunar lander during the Apollo era.   Pretty wild, huh?
After a quick stop for food, we headed to Building 9.  Now, I know that many will argue that Mission Control is the coolest place to go, but I think Building 9 is my favorite.  The Space Vehicle Mockup Facility (SVMF) is a building full of space station modules, shuttle simulators, and robots.  Astronauts learn how to fly the shuttle and find out where they will get to store their stuff if they're on the Space Station.

We got a nice family photo

...and E continued to ask "what's that??"

L introduced himself to Robonaut I,

 

......and got to climb around on the Lunar Electric Rover (LER).

It was a great day, but a little bittersweet.  Soon they will be dismantling the shuttle mock-ups and shipping them to museums.  The LER has nowhere to land right now and things couldn't be more uncertain for our space program.  I realize that because we live and work in this area and our jobs are tied to NASA , its budget woes surround us everyday.  I also know that most people don't give it a second thought.  I saw L and E's faces when we took them into that building and I know that if we could just show people how much there is left to learn and how exiting it is, we would have a chance to become explorers once again.  This is truly inspiring and there just isn't enough of that is our world right now.